May EOTM – “But I don’t want to look like a man!”

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I can’t even lie, I LOVE a man with a large build (think large football player-type of physique, à la manière de football player Ndamukong Suh, celebrity chef G. Garvin, actor Morris Chestnut, actor/wrestler Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, and even the late great r&b crooner Gerald Levert). I’m in love with big muscles, especially big arms, shoulders, and a broad chest.   Bigger men have always been my preference.  But as a gal that’s always been on the bigger side her entire life, I don’t want to look like one.

The idea of lifting weights, or doing any kind of strength training, always brought to mind these types of men, and the irrational fear that adding additional muscle on top of the layers of fat that I had would make me look like a linebacker.  I’ve actually had this discussion a few times with several doctors and personal trainers, and have been emphatically encouraged that because of a woman’s lack of testosterone, no amount of heavy lifting will make me look like men that give me butterflies.

There’s a ton of research out there about the topic, and because I myself have been hesitant in the past to pick up a barbell, I’m making it the Excuse of the Month.  Ladies, it’s important that we do strength training, in addition to cardiovascular exercises and following a healthy diet.  According to a 2014 article in US News & World Report, building muscle from strength training has several benefits for women, including

  • Lowering the risk of osteoporosis
  • Burning fat
  • Losing inches

Additional benefits, according to Fitness Magazine, include improving your cardiovascular health and flexibility.  Just make sure you know what you are doing, because lifting incorrectly can cause serious damage, such as torn ligaments and muscle pain.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help from a personal trainer or someone who can assist you.

So what are you waiting for?  Real women lift!

Share your thoughts on this topic, I’d love to hear them.





2 thoughts on “May EOTM – “But I don’t want to look like a man!”

  1. I’m so glad you posted about this! It’s such a common concern for women! I totally agree that connecting with a professional trainer can be a huge help and ease some of the concern. It can be expensive but a lot of trainers will work with a person every few weeks, tweaking their plan and keeping goals on track.


    • Thank you Denise! I hope it does encourage women to lift more, especially those of us who have had weight loss surgery. Strength training can be helpful to combat skin sagging.


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